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Midlife Crisis or Existential Crisis? Huh? What?

My Mastermind Partners were helping me pinpoint  just who ‘my right people’ are for my blog postings and retreats. So there we were on the call, helping each other figure out what my ‘right people’ are. The dialogue sounded a little like this:

Partners – So, Fatima, who are the people that you want to help?

Me – Women who are just like me.

Partners – Who are women like you?

Me – Women who at some point have given up on their life and happiness.

Partners  – What do you mean exactly, women who want to kill themselves?

Me – NO!  I mean women who love too much. Women who are so busy pleasing other people because they want to be loved. They feel unappreciated and unloved. They are exhausted and tired.

Partners – What else is her pain?

Me – Well looking back at where I was just a few years ago, I was in an abusive relationship, I felt no joy or happiness, I left that relationship with the children, I got divorced, I was diagnosed with adrenal burn-out where I could not even get out of bed, I lost my home and went into bankruptcy all in a 2 year period. So, there I was at age 41, single with 5 kids, no money and I’m wondering what the heck do I do with my life?

Partners – OK. And what did you come up with?

Me – Well, I had to figure out what I wanted. I had been pleasing others all my life, thinking that my happiness came from outside of myself. I had stuffed down all my real feelings and pretended like I was happy. I was always walking on egg-shells because I was afraid that someone would get angry with me. My soul was dying slowly. I needed to get to know who I am. I had to dig deep within myself and start asking some serious questions. What was my purpose in life? What would really make me happy? How can I create a life of purpose? How do I support my family financially? What makes my heart sing? What are my desires? Is life only about serving others – or do I count in that equation? Am I worthy of happiness? Do I deserve to fulfill my own needs? Is it selfish to want my own space? Is it selfish to want for me to want my own money? Is it selfish to want lots of money? What were people going to say? How was I going to fulfill my dreams and desires? Oh my GOD… I am suddenly so afraid of what needed to be done. I started to feel so scared of my future and the future of my children.

Partners – Sounds to me like you are referring to an existential crisis.

Me – I heard of a midlife crisis. What is an exis-es-ntial, crisis? Huh?!

Partners – Check it out on Google it. It’s called an existential crisis, like when people start questioning whether or not there is any meaning to their life. Why am I here? What is this all about? They feel empty and lost inside and they start asking themselves big and profound questions.

Me – Maybe, that’s what happened to me. So what you’re saying is that people start questioning their choices in their life due to divorce or death or something big or maybe they want to make different choices in their life and that’s called an existential crisis. Hmmm, maybe those are the women I am suppose to help.

Partners – Can you be a little more specific on who these women are?

Me – OK. My right people are nice women who feel burned out, alone, and pissed off because they have been pleasing others and giving and giving and giving. They are always feeling tired and exhausted because they never stop and take care of themselves. Since they have spent all their lives making others happy and not being reciprocated, they feel unappreciated and unloved. They don’t know even know who they are. They are looking for love and appreciation from the people around them. They have forgotten their dreams. They don’t even know what they need anymore, but they do know that something has to change because they are dying slowly. They ask themselves these questions that sound like:

Partners – So how are you going to help them?

Me – Hmmm…I could start a website and share my story. I could write a book on what the steps that I took to empower myself. I can help them by first empathizing with them and letting them know I understand their situation because I’ve been there in those moments where I hated myself, and I hated my life. I felt so trapped and unappreciated. I’d be providing the right kind of support. My people need hope to recognize that they have ‘choices’ and that they’re not alone. Through my own experience I feel very confident I can be a loving and nurturing guide to getting my women on their right path of feeling loved and appreciated.

Together we’ll find out the answers to all their questions. But most importantly, my women want to know it’s not too late to give and receive at the same time. They want to know that it’s OK to love themselves and to love their families with the same passion and heart as they choose. My women want to know how to teach the people in their lives to nurture them. They want permission to recharge. They don’t need much because appreciation goes a long way. I’ll help them with the process of getting from guilt and exhaustion to living a life that brings them joy and happiness.

Does this sound like you?

Great. I’m doing a Free “Ask Fatima Anything” call and you’re invited.

This call has been Divinely Inspired. We can talk about anything related to this and other trapped moments where you feel like you will never escape The People Pleaser Prison.

If this does not sound like you in any way, shape or form forward this email to a helper / pleaser type of person that would really benefit from this information.

The call will be about 40-60 minutes long. We will begin and end on time. For the first 10 minutes or so, I’ll share my story:  My pain of being a People Pleaser and what I did to become a “Recovering Doormat”. Then, I’ll answer your questions. You can ask me directly on the call or, you can send in your questions to my mail - and I will answer them on the call.

All My Love,

P.S. The only thing I’m selling on this call is hope, choices and possibilities



Have you ever felt like everything is falling apart and you have absolutely no control over anything? I felt that way on Labour Day this year! The last time I walked into a hospital emergency was in 1988. I thank GOD for my great health and my incredibly high pain tolerance levels. Earlier this year, I was diagnosed with Adrenal Burnout. A condition that effects mostly women who have endured abuse for long periods of time. It was so bad at times that I could hardly get out of bed and make breakfast for my children. My doctor told me to rest a lot. She said that there was no cure for this except resting. I started acupuncture treatments and vitamin therapy and yoga. Plus, it was critical that I get to bed before 10pm every single night. Every day in every way, I started feeling better and better. Then, on Labour Day, as I started to get up from the coach, I felt this excrutiating pain in by back. What the heck!! This felt just like labor pain. Was this a big joke that God was playing on me. I was literally stuck in a 90 degree bent over position. Crying with pain, and asking my children to help me move to the bedroom. I was scared. They were frightened. I called my friend Aishah and told her what was going on. She told me that she would drive me to the hospital. I laughed. “Forget it” I said. “I will be fine”

Three hours later, I was in the emergency room. My children have never heard the words “I think I need to go to the hospital” coming from me. They started a series of tests. Many many tests. My OB/Gyn started talking about surgery. A partial hysterectomy. Maybe Fibroids. Maybe Fibroid degeneration. OMG. Okay. I guess I had some decisions to make. I came home and prayed. The first decision that I made after I prayed was to be completely okay with any surgery. I surrendered. Everything  would be just fine. I started to make a list of all the people in my life that I loved. Being grateful changed my state. The next day, I started to do all the energy healing techniques that I know of. I combined all the techniques in a big love hologram of healing and I would take a mental bath in all of God’s Goodness. I did this twice a day every day. Now, two weeks later, pain is completely gone. Thank you GOD. My doctor said that all my tests are normal. I am feeling perfectly well.

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